Stop Comparing and Start Leading
In our latest Worthy Physician episode, I had the privilege of continuing my conversation with Dr. Maha Mohamad on a topic that resonates deeply with many in healthcare: how women physicians can authentically embrace leadership. This robust discussion explored the unique challenges women face in medical leadership and offered practical strategies for overcoming them.
The conversation began by addressing a pervasive stereotype that women should "show up, be silent, and hold space." Dr. Mohamad immediately challenged this notion by emphasizing that effective leadership for women physicians starts with simply showing up—physically occupying spaces where decisions are made. But showing up isn't enough; having something meaningful to contribute is equally essential. This dual approach—being present and being heard—creates a robust foundation for women's leadership in medicine. Dr. Mohamad beautifully articulated how seeing women lead in their respective spaces inspires younger generations, underscoring the ripple effect of women's visibility in leadership positions.
A significant portion of our discussion centered around the concept of imposter syndrome, something many of us struggle with regardless of our accomplishments. Dr. Mohamad offered a refreshing perspective, suggesting that acknowledging our limitations—rather than pretending to know everything—enhances our credibility and effectiveness as leaders. This vulnerability, when balanced appropriately with confidence, creates authentic connections with patients, colleagues, and team members. We explored how this same principle applies to parenting, drawing parallels between being honest with our children about not having all the answers and bringing that same transparency to our professional roles.
The conversation took a fascinating turn when we discussed negotiation skills and communication strategies for effective leadership. I recommend Chris Voss's book, "Never Split the Difference," as a valuable resource for developing these crucial skills. We reflected on how negotiation permeates nearly every aspect of medical practice—from discussing treatment plans with patients to coordinating care with colleagues. Non-verbal communication emerged as a critical element, acknowledging that most of our communication occurs through body language rather than words. This recognition invites us to be more mindful of how we present ourselves in leadership positions.
Perhaps most powerfully, Dr. Mohamad shared her journey toward finding purpose through self-reflection and intentional goal-setting. She described a methodical approach involving quiet contemplation, writing down thoughts and goals, and working backward from desired outcomes. Her advice to compare yourself only to your past self—not to others—resonated deeply with me. This perspective shift helped her overcome a period of stagnation during medical school when she felt disconnected from her passion. By focusing on personal growth rather than external validation, she rediscovered her authentic leadership style and purpose. This journey toward self-improvement isn't about perfectionism but rather about becoming more impactful in service to others.
The episode concluded with Dr. Mohamad's powerful reminder that we are all lifelong learners. Accepting that we won't know everything liberates us to lead with authenticity and continuous growth. For women physicians specifically, this means embracing our unique strengths and perspectives while recognizing that leadership is ultimately about the journey of development rather than achieving perfect outcomes. By showing up, speaking up, and embracing both vulnerability and confidence, women physicians can transform medical leadership in powerful ways.
